Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Requiem for a Rabbit

Just before Christmas, my parents lost their house-trained dwarf rabbit. She had been sick for some time, and simply didn't wake up one morning.

There might be some who think, "Oh, it's just a rabbit . . . it's not like it was a real pet, like a dog or cat," and I will firmly and respectfully disagree with them. "Bunny," or "Rabbit" as she was called, was litter box trained, had free run of my parents' family and laundry rooms, knew when her bedtime was, and would come over to my parents, my father especially, when they were watching television in the evening and wait to be picked up and petted. If that's not a real pet, then I don't know what is.

But more than that was the literal companionship this little rabbit provided. She was a rescue, being found by my parents one Sunday morning wandering around the parking lot at church. She wasn't wild, and didn't run away when someone simply went over and picked her up. Perhaps she escaped from someone, or was released for some reason, but for the seven years she was with my parents, she was a loved member of the family. When they first brought her home, my parents would block the steps and slats on the deck behind their house, and let Rabbit wander around unsupervised. Until a hawk landed on the deck railing, eyeing Rabbit as an easy meal and was luckily shooed away by my mother. After that, Rabbit stayed in the house.


When I still lived in Maryland, and my parents would go away on vacation, I would go up to their house every night after work to care for and "play" with Rabbit per my mom's written instructions. I would come into the house and let her out of the laundry room, and she would do a once-around the family room and kitchen and then head down the hallway to the living room. The living room, especially under the piano, was a forbidden zone, and Rabbit would inevitably sense a new person in the house and head right for the piano. As Mom recalls, "When you wanted to get her out, you had to sharply say, 'Rabbit, Rabbit, where are you?' And then rattle the Ritz cracker box and say, 'Want a cookie?' And she would come out to the the laundry room and you could close the door...it was funny and sad at the same time to remember those instructions."

My father's nighttime ritual of watching "Wheel of Fortune" and "Jeopardy!" included petting Rabbit, either holding her on his lap or tucking her next to his leg as he sat on the floor. And much like a cat purrs when it's relaxed and content, Rabbit would let out a series of small grunts and clicks when she was with my dad, thoroughly enjoying the gentle petting.

Once the two game shows were over, Rabbit knew it was time for bed, and she would leave my father and hop into her cage, waiting for her nightly graham cracker, and the top to be placed on her cage, ending her day.

And after I moved away, Tori, the daughter of my mom's colleague Amy, would watch Rabbit, or "Flopsy," as she called her, as an unknown disorder caused her to lose her balance and somersault. This condition grew progressively worse, and ultimately proved fatal.

The morning Rabbit died, my father, always the soft-hearted one, cried softly as they wrapped her in a soft towel, placed her in a shoebox, and then my father buried her under a tree in their backyard.

The importance and value of a pet cannot be underestimated, nor can the loss of a pet, even a rabbit, be dismissed lightly. Even before she died, I asked my mother if she would ever replace Rabbit, and she was adamant that she wouldn't. I believed my mother then, and still believe now that she and my father won't have another pet.

Because no pet could ever replace Rabbit.

Friday, December 31, 2010

Day 348 - People I Dig

The older they get, the more I see their resemblances to their family.

Day 347 - People I Dig

Art and Marnette, and their three children Lilly, Cora, and Grant, are among my dearest and closest friends.

Monday, October 18, 2010

Day 291 - Temecula

I was in Temecula for a cousin's wedding; unfortunately for Cam, he was the only child there. However, he was in full imaginary mode and was able to entertain himself . . . it was a joy to watch.

Thursday, July 29, 2010

Day 204 - People I Dig

I call Thom my brother; we call each other that, actually, since we're much more than just friends. I met him the first day of what would become my first job, way back in 1993. We worked in the same office for six years, and it was Thom who encouraged me to join him in the gym. We went at lunchtime when we worked together, then met once a week after work once I had moved on. Besides the gym, we share a love of good food and baseball, and his solid Midwest values are a rarity these days.

Today is Thom's birthday, and I have no reservations about saying it's his 58th; he posted it on Facebook himself. I took this picture last year when I met him in his hometown of St. Louis for a weekend of Cardinals baseball and barbecue. You'd be hard-pressed to find a friend better than Thom, and I do miss seeing him on a regular basis.

So happy birthday, my brother, and may your beloved Cardinals always win.

Monday, July 12, 2010

Day 182 - Eating With Gusto

Despite the sacrilege of putting ketchup and mayo (!) on his brat, Cam sure knows how to eat . . . notice how his eyes are rolling back up into his head.

Day 178 - People I Dig

By blood we're cousins, but John truly is my brother . . . which is why I didn't use the picture I snapped right before this one . . .

Where John was yawning like a big ol' bear coming out of hibernation.

Day 177 - Summer

If this doesn't say "Summer," I don't know what does.

Monday, June 14, 2010

A Clarification


In the interest of full disclosure, I would like to make it clear that when Mom gave me "the finger," she was NOT flipping me off, giving me the bird, or any other means of obscene gesture . . . no matter how much I may have deserved it.

This is Mom in full "finger mode."

You do NOT want to know how many times I was on the receiving end of this.

Friday, June 11, 2010

Day 158 - Mom

Today is my mom's birthday.

It's a milestone one, and despite Mom not having a vain or egotistical bone in her body, I will refrain from saying which birthday this is.

However, I will say that I had to use a great deal of self-restraint and NOT use a picture of her with "the finger." I saw a lot of "the finger" when I was younger, mostly because it was being shaken in my face or pointed in my direction for something I did, didn't do, did poorly, or some other various and sundry error of youthful masculine ineptitude. And fortunately (or unfortunately, depending on your point of view) I don't get "the finger" that much anymore, but that's mostly to Mom and Dad living on the other side of the country. But trust me, if she lived closer, I'd get "the finger." A lot.

So happy birthday, Mom, and for better or worse, you've had a big hand (or finger) in helping me become who I am today. I love you lots, and you're the best mom in the whole wide world.

Love,
Tom

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Undeserved Love

Talent is defined as "a special natural ability or aptitude," but that doesn't even come close to describing Jana. For reasons that I could never justify or explain, she made a quilt for me. By hand. Not just any quilt, but one with such detailed and intricate panels, it's simply stunning.


Words can't even describe how in awe I am of Jana's talent, or how appreciative I am of this wonderful gift. Someone asked me when she gave me the quilt what I did to deserve it, and my answer's still the same - "Absolutely nothing."

It is truly a work of art, one that I will forever cherish. Thank you, Jana . . . you're the bestest.

Monday, May 10, 2010

Day 129 - People I Dig

Uncle Don is my father's oldest brother, wise beyond his years, kind and gentle like few others, and laughs often.

Day 128 - Laughter

I'm convinced we don't laugh enough, certainly not this kind of laugh. I love my cousin / brudder from anudder mudder John and his wife Jana tons.

Day 125 - Eye See You

Hi Cam!

Saturday, May 1, 2010

Day 121 - Recording Studio

My sister was in the recording studio laying down piano tracks for an album she's playing on . . . nine hours for seven songs.

Monday, April 12, 2010

Day 99 - My Sister

My sister is one of those rare individuals who is so smart, so successful, and so unbelievably good at what she does, she should be famous. But being her parents' daughter, she's perfectly content to leave the spotlight to others, deftly dancing around the edges, gently pushing the bigger egos into place, and never wanting any attention for herself.

Happy birthday, sis, and no matter what I may have said when we were growing up, yes, you ARE that damn good.

Sunday, April 4, 2010

Day 94 - Dad


Dear Dad --

Happy birthday! I know having me as your kid wasn't always easy, but you were always there for me, and you still are. You're not perfect, but then again, none of us are. For better or worse, most of what I am is because of you - there's some of Mom in me too, but we'll deal with that on her birthday. I love you.

Love,
Tom

Monday, March 15, 2010

Day 70 - People I Dig

My cousin John's son Cam is exactly what I would have expected Calvin to grow up like. He's a total little hipster with his skinny purple jeans, but when Oma makes fresh whipped cream, he still likes to lick the beater.

Monday, February 22, 2010

Day 47 - People I Dig

Aunty Lou is my father's sister and the de facto matriarch of our family. She handled my Uncle Hans' passing with dignity and grace, as much as one can when losing their husband of over 42 years. Love you lots, Aunty Lou . . .